For the note 2, you can update to kitkat from stock ROM ( if u never modified your phone) After you flashed a ROM you cannot update via original build in android is updater. So I suggest you to get back to stock ROM and unmodify everything( including root) and go to settings, about device, software update, and click check for software update. They will notify you when the check is finish. Click download update.
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