i noticed that my GND pin 5 on the usb (NOT the handsfree side) was broke and only the soldered part of it was still on because the pin are bent in right angles to reach there positions.
Ths explained the theory that if you place your stylus in you actually damage the pin and bend the angles more and more until they give. Which can me only two times as these pins are realy thin.
so i am 100 % sure that my GND 5 PIN is the problem as chargers use this for the ground. But usb cables maybe can use the ground from the Headphones GND to get a connection (maybe). So if anyone can charge from the usb cable pc then it is this pin that is broke.
I am working on a way to get a ths wire connected to left over part of GND pin and try to extend it to the normal place of this pin.
ill let you no if it worked or not