Default [Q] Moto Droid stuck at 2.1

I have a Motorola Droid which appears to be stuck at Firmware version 2.1.

I want to update the firmware. ROM Manager is not available in the Market and I cannot find the appropriate APK file to do a sideload.

Questions:

1. Where can I find the correct APK file so I can do a sideload? or

2. Where can I find a link to install the latest clockwork recovery mod? and/or

3. What rom/build (preferably CM7 or CM9) is recommended?

Thanks in advance!

PH