Default Note 3 doesn't auto reconnect with gear, but does with car audio...

everything was all fun and well when i got the gear this past weekend. always connected to phone and everything. However today I got in my car, the phone connect to the bluetooth audio as usual, and I get an alert on the gear saying its been disconnected. I messed around with it and discovered that my note 3 can only connect to either the gear's call audio or the car's call audio, not both at the same time. (it can connect to the gear's call audio and the car's media audio though) The car connection takes priority every time. I figure I can live with that but when I get out of my car, the gear doesn't auto reconnect to my phone. I know auto-reconnect works because it does that with my car but how can I get the gear to do that as well?

thanks