Default CM11 and MySMS or TabletTalk

Ok, I have MySms and tablet talk on my phone and tablet and I have issues with both apps.

With Mysms it seems that when i try to send a message from my tablet to my phone it just sits their and try sending until i take and open the app from the phone, then it will send. It will however send the received message to my tablet without issue.

Tablet Talk.
I can connect via WiFi or Bluetooth without a issue, but the issue I have is, when i get a new message i check it on my tablet, but it will not mark it read on the phone. When trying this i have tried using the stock messaging, handcent, Chomp sms, and MySms as the the messaging app.

Any help in getting one of these working properly would be helpful.