well, the "infernal kernel" (latest rev. is 1.42) by jose ... at best maybe the 1.8GHz-version, as above could be instable on most phones, is definately THE choice to go for for all stock-based roms = thereby ONLY for any custom-rom BASED on the _stock-htc ICS4.0.4 rom-image with Sense4.1_, since his modded kernel is based on those kernel-sources. the probably very BEST ICS4.0.4 rom is ViperLTE2.2.0, but unfortunately development has ceased and thereby no newer improvements will come and the rom is abandoned, still most ppl (that like/love Sense) here still this one as their main rom.
the neat Infernal4+ rom (also by jose and others) is JB4.1 and also has an infernal-kernel (but a JB-infernal and is thereby different than the main branch) ... problem is, that camera and bt do NOT work!
if you want newer stuff ... go grab yourself the latest official CM10.2.1_stable (or the mdmower version, which uses the CM10.2.1_stable branch as a base).
i myself tested pacman-rom (CM+AOKP+PA is an all-in-one rom) ... latest is pac_fireball-nightly-20140128.zip and thereby near identical to the CM10.2.1 (just 4 days older), but with addons from AOKP and PA. their KK-roms aren't yet out. also Avatar-Rom (used to be JB4.3, now also KK4.4) was also pretty prominent ...
those are the most common roms i'd say, but grab yourself your own favorite rom ... i myself would go for either ViperLTE2.2.0 (still ICS, but stock-based) ... or take the last JB4.3 PacMan-Rom for all its features