One thing you have to bear in mind with forums are that people tend to voice their opinion when they are unhappy. They are less likely to start threads stating how great the experience is going or about things they like!
Personally I can't find any real faults with the phone. There are little nags, such as the power button being hard to press but nothing that takes away from the overall experience. The battery life is poor over the first couple of days but it's looking like this resolves itself after the li-ion is conditioned.
Working for a major UK phone network, I get my hands on every handset going and nothing compares to the jaw dropping impact the 4.3" screen has! (Ok HD7 maybe, but WinPho7 is not quite ready yet, but will be great!) If you want the latest hardware and spend most of your time browsing or viewing media, the Desire HD is for you!