what i did to get 3g..
Ok guys here is a quick guide since im only gonna be home for a minute. I will edit later so jd can update the op if this works for anyone else.
In dfs on the Nam tab pref mode=wcdma only then the band pref= pcs only all the others i have set to home only.
Here is the link to the dfs i used the setting are a little different.Im not sure i its updated or what. Either that or i used the wrong one the whole time
http://www.multiupload.com/7G5R1WJRPK
For my apns i have the apn.conf rar file that is in mdiaz's signature.
I also used root explorer and edited my build prop where the scripts didnt. There is a few ro files that say( ro.main.cid=spcs_001 )i changed all of them that said that to( ro.main.cid=METRO0001 )make sure metro is all caps then 001. Just change the spcs you see on those i think there is four that says that. I also changed in the build prop where it says cdma mode preffered to wcdma_hdr mode preferred. Im not sure if my changes to the build prop helped but its pretty easy to do just go into root explorer hold the build prop until the menu comes up and scroll down to open in text editor and change those few things.
I will make this more user friendly later i just wanted to do what i can now. i hope this helps everybody else that hasnt been able to get 3g.
Ps im setting my girls phone up like this now and were going out where i know its full 3g ill update later once i got both phones going with it. Good luck everyone.