I noticed just a minute ago that in the android emulator it is at the top(and the two vertical lines are missing), so if it is a bug, it's not exactly a CM9 (or Lupo) bug.
Anyway, is it possible that google changed this in the 4.0.4? (personally I find it more useful at the top)
It's possible. Since you mentioned it, I tried doing a Google image search for 4.0.4 ICS dialer screenshots and I found one on a site about updates for Galaxy Nexus and Nexus S that shows the delete button up top (and no vertical dividers.)
This is the only reason that makes me stay in cm7. CM9 is AMAZING, the best rom I've ever used, but I need usb tethering everyday, and I cannot install a software on every computer that I tether with...
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