After some experimentation, when I pair with the phone, then connect, the phone states "connected to phone and media audio". Afterwards, I can play music via the BT. However, when it disconnects and reconnects (automatically), it only says "connected to phone" and I can no longer play audio. That is, even though within the BT options it has both phone and media audio checked.
Net result - I can play audio, but I have to repair the phone every time.
If anyone knows how to make it reconnect to both automatically, I'd be glad to hear it.