Got around it...phew!!
As it turned out I had a few issue, for anyone else in the same boat here is what I did to get my phone back up.
First, I cant thank Koush enough for his amazing work, after installing his universal adb drivers the laptop started recognizing the phone immediately (as to why it didnt with the official drivers, I have no idea).
The drives can be found here: http://koush.com/post/universal-adb-driver
Once the phone was recognized by the laptop I knew I had some hope, I tried to adb sideload a few roms but kept getting error messages. I looked up TWRP for the latest version 2.7 and updated to that from 126.96.36.199 and the Roms started working immediately. Now I am happily running the PAC KK rom
(which by the way looks fantastic).
Hope this helps anyone else who is in the same boat.