My humble opinion: if you have to ask which rom to use, stick to Gingerbread. all mods in here are development mods. If you can't be bothered by reading the first few posts in threads, it would be beneficial for everyone to just use good old Gingerbread.
Youtube ?? I think I have problem about lag in Youtube too .. But You have to try a ROM for at least 3-4 days to know the real performance of it ... after that, If you still feel uncomfortable then you can change to other ROM .. 5-10 Minutes is not enough to test a ROM ..
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