Yay its fixed.
thanx for your help everybody on this site.
for those of you finding this with the same problem here is a STEP BY STEP guide!
1: go to ftp://ftp.xda-developers.com/
2: Click on "Wizard"
3: Click on "ROMS"
4: Click On "Other_unknown"
5: Click on "Wizard_Love_188.8.131.52_WWE_Novii+CF2.rar"
6: be patient it will eventually download this site does not have a great upload speed it may also fail a few times.
7: once downloaded use Winrar or winzip to extract the file to your root directory.
8: Charge your phone fully overnight (IMPORTANT)
9: connect data cable and backup (this rom update will wipe your device clean)
10: remove device from active sync and set as guest when reconnected.
11: Double click the file you have extracted and follow the Italian instructions (dont worry this will give an english menu once loaded)
12: avanti means next and all the blurb is highlighting some important stuff to do before proceeding (translate at bablefish if you want)
13: the device will restart and go to a grey screen with a percentage bar.
14 BE VERY VERY PAITENT it is imperitive that you do not interupt this process in anyway! it will stop in places especially at %96 but leav it to run.
(I WOULD ALSO RECOMEND STOPING ALL UN-NESSARSAY PROGRAMS IN THE TASK BAR BY RIGHT CLICKING AND EXIT)
Once complete you will have a clean install with all word apps without the o2 junk AND you want get that stupid "the phone is not ready. wait 15 seconds and try again"
This is only a know fix for me on a o2 XDA Mini s version G4 Locked please do not attempt this unless you are completely confident and that you are in the same situation
It feels good to put something back to this excelant website!