long story short i learned that you cannot unlock the bootloader once it has been locked. my NOOB method of installing all the OTA updates before attempting root backfired bigtime.
so when i put the phone in flash mode i could not load the CM10.3 so i have been using the key combinations to manually select normal boot for the past several months.
Now that there is an update i cannot get the phone to go through the update.
I am hoping there is a method to clear the fastboot bit so that it will run normally then i can again attempt the OTA update to kitkat.