I got the whole starter kit from canakit on Amazon I think there a official resaler with a power supply and memory card included . it seem like everything was right in what is required.I'm not aware of any way you could configure it server side. You can do this on the client depending on the app your using. I only tested VNC with Remmina which comes bundled with Ubuntu and it seems to work fine with that.
General advice is to use proper sdcard (at least class 10) and power source (3A in case of Pi 4). Impossible to say what could be the issue without seeing any logs anyway.
There's also https://github.com/lineage-rpi/android_kernel_brcm_rpi/issues/6 but there's been some mixed reports whether this is fixed in Android 11 (or there's two similar separate issues).
Where can i find the logs to see whats going on?
Update 1 Tried adding dtoverlay=disable-wifi in the config file and it worked i guess there's a issue with wifi?