As far as a good ROM its to each his own. I highly recommend you try a few and see what fits you best. Each dev will tell you that they have the best and it turns into a big match of who has the best ROM which is why "the best ROM" threads are not allowed.
I completely agree and I would say the same if someone was looking for the best Rom, but that would apply if I was in fact asking for the best Rom but that is not the case. I am simply looking for a rom other than the stock eclair that is stable and will most importantly work with this unlock,

seeing I have t-mobile and am not going to switch to AT&T. I like my plan and this phone and simply need a Rom that will work with this unlock seeing any time I flash anything other than the stock eclair with GB bootloaders the unlock fails? I have been searching and it has been extremely hard to find one, So any info on that fact would be more helpful than the obvious facts, Thanks.