Ok I see.I renamed my mms apn to "default,supl,mms" which made it selectable
Then i found an app that could switch apn with one press on the widget
and when I was to send/recieve mms I pressed the widget button
I used handcent, because it was able to notify before the mms was downloaded.
That's the closest I came to an solution
Any idea which phones or provider it works on?
Galaxy S4 - all providers I think(have only tested TDC)
HTC One (in a short time)
I expect all providers having android 4.2.2 phones that MMS will work.
Someone with abilities above mine should investigate which changes were made from 4.1.2 to 4.2.2 since it is working fine on Bruce's CM10.