Everywhere, you say? Well, that doesn't sound correct. The firmware (full rom, really) for 4.1 is listed on
http://support.asus.com.
To downgrade, it will wipe EVERYTHING except your external SD, if you have one. For good measure, take it out. But a word of caution, I wouldn't try downgrading to 4.0. To my knowledge, we are only able to downgrade to 4.1, but I would LOVE if someone tells me otherwise before you end up with yet another brick added to the long list.
And yes, 4.2 didn't fix much of the lag problems. It merely moved them, in my opinion. There is much less lag when installing apps (still very present), while there is a bit of lag when opening the quick settings and notification bars, which wasn't present in 4.1.
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