1)When listening to long music(or podcast in mp3 format) with default sense music player, it don't remember time for more than couple of minutes after pausing. It is really frustrating searching for place I ended up listening to podcast.
2)If I will download music of podcast in mp3, I need to restart my phone in order for music player to discover it. any fix?
1) I'm using WinAmp, it always keeps the time, except if I press play or open the app while the SD is mounted on the computer. The headphone remote barely/never works with it, but ... oh well, it doesn't really work for me with the stock player either.
2) Give SDrescan a try.
I'm feeling with you, it's what I use all the time, as most other ROMs simply miss something... be it Sense desk clock (not the widgets) and the really good people/dialer apps in non-Sense ROMs, be it lack of hardware keyboard support for anything but English (pretty much all ROMs, really), or that they simply are sort of sluggish rather often (I know we only have 3xx MB of RAM)