Because it isn't Revolution. Different ROMs have different features and a different user base. I find Maximus and Viper to be the most stable (with Maximus having a distinct edge on 3.57 base) and I avoid ARHD. It has been glitchy since the Sensation days because it packs too many features in that are not compatible with one another.
Try each ROM and come to your own conclusions. Maximus is currently the most stable 3.57 ROM though for sure.
I concur completely on all your points...exactly my user experience as well. Both ViperOne and MaximusHD roms run perfectly stable&smooth on my HTC One, and ARHD always gives issues on my phone (no idea why).
Using MaximusHD 20.0 atm and waiting patiently for the complete Viper v3 rom (android 4.3)...(for the specific tweaks in Viper)